What Does Introvert Looks Like?

Have you ever feel like walking around the city without looking on the faces of all the people that pass by? Have you ever tried eating at the restaurant sitting at the corner seat? Have you ever wanted to stay at the coffee shop instead of going to the crowded places to meet new people? Those are “some” of the things that introverts do.

People say that introverts are tame and have a stodgy life because they don’t usually see them in loud and social circle. having deep thoughts and speak-less in public. Introverts are shy and some have a low self-esteem. That’s normal and it’s their nature. Sometimes, they feel that they are bounded with their own standards. They are bit sensitive and vulnerable to judgments. They are very cautious too and hate rejections. They cannot speak as vocal as possible since they’re afraid to get caught off guard. They keep things on themselves and don’t want to be in the lime light.

They may seem aloof but their mind doesn’t stop thinking. They have lots of things to say in their minds but cannot express them in such way that others do. For some reasons, maybe they just try to know the person first before they can open their minds and share their thoughts to others. They may seem dull but have creative minds. They think first and utter their ideas in a very concise manner. They have a keen perspective about things as oppose to the impressions of having a jejune personality created by people’s perception. They are independent and their independence defines them. They also give limited to no judgments to everyone and act or speak base on how people treat them.

Introverts have a wide range of perception, ideas, capabilities, understanding and point of view and that’s something that you should see by yourself.

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Ways To Protect Your Heart

These days, we often see love and relationship in every part of the society. Businesses, establishments and others use different kinds of situations where they can inject love and relationship as their marketing strategy to catch attention and even revenue. Social media memes and relationship pages, often talk about every side of relationship. Happy or sad posts often get into the limelight. It gets thousands of likes and even numerous shares. In voluntarily, we may find ourselves hooked on those ideas that presented and posted on the sites and pages that we follow. We may see ourselves at the end of the day vulnerable to the idea of romance that the pop-culture keeps on telling us. Entertainment wise, we are bounded by the logic underneath each movie or story what we seen and that creates the notion of how we should love and how we should be loved. It somewhat lead and molds us into a person that we are when we fall in love as we grow and as we mature. Entertainment media, and social networking sites also create different kinds of options of what kind of emotional mentality we should have. So how can you guard your heart before it gets broke by someone that you chose to love?

Don’t complicate your life by playing mind games. Generations these days are fond of mind games. You’ll spend such period of time with someone, you might not figure it out but at some point you will invest some feelings and emotion with that person. You’ll be at state wherein you don’t want to stop but you don’t to push it through. Hey, Let me tell you one thing! Stop wasting your precious time to a person who doesn’t want give clarity on to what you guys have. There must be a thin line between being “friends” and “lovers”. If you think that what you guys have will not push into a relationship. Quit and Leave.

Live limitless with caution. We all have the free will to choose what kind of life we would like to have, what kind of life we want to take, what kind of work or profession we want to pursue, and also a free will to choose the person that we want to be with. We should not limit ourselves to discover things around us, and the possibilities around us. Living without limitation to explore can teach us a lot of things. It can taught life changing experiences that we can cherish as we grow old. However, it can also lead us to the downside of uncontrollable acts . Do things with caution and carefully experience every aspect of life with caution to know when to stop, to know then action can harm us. There’s nothing wrong in being adventurous in meeting people but do it with caution.

Do not EXPECT. The safest way to protect your heart is by nit expecting anything from someone. Whether to your friend or your partner. Do not expect. At first, this is so cliche but when you were able to see the good things in not expecting anything, you will find your heart, your soul and your mind at peace. We often get hurt because we expect things from someone or to our partner and are holding on to their words. Their words became our shelter and implant in within ourselves but the thing is, since we expect to much from their words, we can’t see things on the other side. We may trust the person that love so that we our relationship could grow but always remember that everything is constant and everything change. It’s like setting yourself a boundary when to trust and to what extent can you trust. You may trust them wholeheartedly but do not expect. Expecting the worst may sound off to some but I tell you, it can save our heart from too much pain when things don’t go as what we expect. Expecting the worst is for brave heart with the soft heart.

Don’t let your emotions control you. Some people can’t help themselves  but being stagnant to stick to the relationship that they have. Yes, that’s normal. When we love someone, we make and try our best to make things work. We even go beyond out limit just to make that person feel secured and loved. We should remember how to control our emotions. When we are angry, anxious or sad, we can’t think straight and that can affect our daily lives. We may find an outlet on how to release too much anger, anxiousness and even sadness. You can guard your heart by knowing how to control your emotion. If you feel so much pain inside that you cannot function well then, Stop. Leave and Breath. If situations upsets you, divert your to things that can be beneficial for you. It can be pursuing your set-aside goal, focusing more on your career, anything! Always be happy and positive despite for negative thoughts and emotion that you have. Always remember that being happy can protect your heart from pain and anger.

Stay positive and leave your past behind. Social media trolls may contain sad and bitter outlook in life. It is a collection of bad scenarios and illustrated but playful mind of an artist. There’s nothing wrong in getting hurt. We learn from it. Bad Experience teaches us to be strong and to know ourselves even more. Remembering your bad experiences or your past will just cause you more cuts, deeper cut rather. Free yourself from pain and live happily. Let your heart heal its wound and open your heart from possibility to love again.

Here Are The Things To Expect In Being Single from A Long Term Relationship

Being in a long term relationship will give you a sense of security, assurance, overflowing hope and comfort. Worst things come, one of you decided to depart without holding each other’s hand. Your soul will die, your heart will get stabbed, and you’ll see yourself on the cliff left hanging with the rope around your neck. Suddenly, the pain will run through your veins like a venom making you numb for a minute until your heart stops to beat and your mind to think. Everything will turn to be black and no trace of light for quite some time.

Hours, days, weeks and months will pass. Surely, you will have some urge to stood up and move forward. So, here are the things that you might realize as you embrace the so-called “single” life.

  1. You’re rebuilding yourself

The need to rebuild yourself is essential. You are shaping yourself to be the best version of you. You are not trying to please your ex or a new possible suitor but you are trying to please yourself. It’s like, boosting up your morale after being drowned.

  1. You’re mastering mind over matter game

There were rainy morning, gloomy afternoon and cold nights. It’s so normal to miss the things that you do with your ex, even places, dates food, everything. Believe me that’s OKAY! But after a while you’ll have to fight for the idea that you can survive even without “US”, even without “together” and  all I have is “me”, “myself” no more no less. One day, you will make up thinking that you are waking up each day for your goals, for your family and friends and for your future.

  1. You’ll meet different kinds of “guys”

There are guys you’ll meet randomly, asking for your number or your Facebook account. As you talk to them, you’ll know their difference particularly in their attitudes, the reasons and rebuts, interests, point of views. You just have to be smart enough to choose who among them is worthy for your time.

  1. Finding yourself lost in the universe

As you move forward and live for your life again, you’ll see yourself walking in the midst of nowhere. Standing in the middle of wide road with no exact end point. You’re not sure what to do, where to start. But at the end of the day, as you rebuild yourself and helping yourself to stand up, you will start to figure out what do you want to be and eventually write down your goal to achieve.

  1. You tend to realize that being single is not a relationship status

Being single is definitely a time for yourself and a break for all the shitty stuff that you got from a bad relationship. It is a time where you can spend all your freakin’ time in bed without checking you from time to time. It is a time where you can spend all your time in your new hobby or in your career. A time where you can shop all you want without thinking what to buy for him. It is the time where you learn to appreciate and love yourself, your flaws and everything about you.

  1. You will value your time even more

Since you have a lot of time for yourself, you tend not to waste your time in shitty people. No space for drama and all sort of negativity. Your timeline for your goal is important. You tend to value the time that you have for your family and for your friends. Yes, you might be dating again but you tend to have a checklist at the back of your mild to make sure that you are dating a right person. Your “negotiables” and “non-negotiable” matters to you the most.

  1. Your passion wins over you heart

This time, you are more focus on what makes you happy and what makes you productive rather than agonizing for your past relationship. You take certain classes to achieve your goal whether it is a career goal or for personality development.

  1. You’ll know your worth more

You don’t waste your time for wrong people. You don’t chase for a guy who doesn’t even see your worth and your beautiful soul. You walk away to people who think and see you less. You spend your time to those who can see your worth, who can see how amazing you are. You give you nothing but clear intention and to those that are willing and make an effort to know you and your world as the day passes.

  1. Your relationship with your family gets stronger

You will understand that your family will never leave you know matter how wasted you are. You will understand that blood is thicker than water. Their love for you is unconditional.

  1. You learn to how to pause and think

As you walk alone with your life, you are evaluating your actions. Your past, present and future. You tend to foresee who you are, few years from now. You try to re-evaluate your goals if that’s what your heart says.

  1. Your career blooms double

You work harder just to keep yourself busy without knowing that it gives a lot of credit. Greater opportunity might come and you tend to aim for more. You bosses will recognize your job might lead to promotion after quite some time.

10 Facts and Realizations of a Newborn Outdoor Enthusiast

1. Your physical well-being will be tested.

Outdoor activities require strength. You literally need to be strong for every walk, climb and grip. Plus the heat to the sun, cold breeze during night trek, heavy backpacks. Every muscle in your body works, so better have a warm-up first or else your first time will be you last.

2. You will push yourself beyond your limit.

There will be times that you’re about give up especially if you are a first timer.  Even though your lungs and your heart are about to explode, you can’t feel your legs’ existence and you can’t even carry your things still,  there’s part in you saying that you have to finish it ‘coz turning back is a great NO-NO.

3. Exhaustion becomes relaxation.

Mountain assaults will definitely exhaust you plus the heights that will wreck your nerves. After a looong hours of  walk, run, climb and grip, reaching the finish line or the top will give you an excellent view. The picturesque view of nature can calm your soul. Exhaustion is part of the adventure but surely, calmness and serenity will follow.

4. You’ll get connected with nature.

Since you’re doing outdoors, most of the time. You’ll get connected with nature so sooner or later. You’ll get used to its physical beauty. You may have the tendency to care for it unconsciously. It might help you to release unwanted feelings, burden and anxiety.

5. You’ll be extreme.

There are times that ropes do not exist so the only way for you to reach the top or to go on the other side is to have faith on the rocks, in the grass, on the soil and even to your shoes.

6. You will conquer your fear.

This applies to everyone who has Acrophobia. Climbing mountain that ranges 700 – 2,000 meters above sea level is a nerve wrecking activity for those who have fear of heights. To be with an outdoor-junkie/adventure seeker means to be with  someone who can get you out of the box. With the motivation that he/she gives you’ll soon forget your fear and reach the top.

7. You’ll learn to trust yourself.

For every struggle that you face along the way, you’ll learn and understand that trusting yourself is the biggest factor to succeed. Even how exhausted and wasted you are.

8. Motivation will push you forward.

You can’t hit a goal without motivation. You also have your partner and your team to motivate you. Your partner will be your best motivator in reaching the summit or the finish line.

9. Outdoor activities will deepen your relationship.

Well, for me it is. I personally, is not an outdoor-junkie. I don’t remember any sports that I played when i was in high school or in college. I just became an OD-junkie when I meet my boyfriend. I might say that it deepens our relationship in a sense that we were able to support and share each other’s interests. Like me,  I like heights, small trips, adventures, scenery, picturesque view while he likes all outdoor stuffs, majestic view and photography. You tend to know each other’s capacity and limitations. Both of you will adjust in every circumstances.

10. You’ll change for the better.

You’ll tend to realize the importance of patience, motivation, faith and goals. Do not get upset if your partner is and outdoor junkie. All you have to do is try and enjoy new experiences. There’s always be a good and life changing realizations after the trip. Stepping out from your comfort zone is better than staying inside the box for the rest of your life. Life is too short. Have life and enjoy!